Thursday, March 10, 2011
For those of you getting this entry by an RSS reader, I'm now redirecting this blog to http://gospellivingmadeawesome.com. I have too many blogs. I'm combining them all into the one. I'll still blog about dating, it will just be mixed with other stuff for awhile.
See you on the other side!
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Being a dad has been a whole new experience for me. I've discovered good and bad aspects of my character I never could have anticipated before having kids of my own. It's not easy, and it's not always fun, but (sorry, I know this is SOOO cliche) it's so incredibly rewarding. (See my daddy blog for some of my adventures in parenting). I'm not saying I was one of those hard guys that was never big on kids but somehow ended up with some and that they softened him - actually, I was a weird nerdy kid who loved babysitting, playing with little kids instead of friends, and tried numerous times throughout the early years of my career to get a job working at a day care. Unfortunately, they don't like hiring guys to work with little kids. The chauvinistic little... but I'm not bitter...
And I love having kids, but I can tell you - it's not easy, and it makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD having a spouse who loves being a parent. Jenni is INCREDIBLE that way. While all her friends complain about needing "me" time, she starts missing the kids if she's from them for more than a couple hours. I feel like it's because of her that I LOVE being a parent.
Sure, she'll probably be a blubbering mess when they start going off to school - but that's exactly the point. She loves being a mom. She can't stand the thought of someone else (besides the two of us) raising her children, and she's determined to teach them the gospel of Jesus Christ so completely that they won't misunderstand it. They will know the gospel, and by the way she teaches it, I think they'll love it - they certainly do so far. They already love the Savior, and when I see how much she loves the kids, it's so sweet and so beautiful that it just makes me love her even more.
Find someone who will be a good parent to your children - it will pay you back again and again and again.
Monday, February 14, 2011
Saturday, January 29, 2011
So where is the balance between noticing a girl's physical attractiveness and letting your eyes wander where they shouldn't?
I once heard a good rule that worked well for me, and I recommend it to every unmarried person. When it comes to checking someone out, stick with the head. Eyes, hair, face, that's all fine. Just don't go below that. Obviously, you'll know if they have an attractive body. You don't have to pan down or stare to figure that out. Just focus on the head, and you'll usually be safe.
After marriage, you trade being able to check out the attractiveness of any girls “head” for being able to check out your spouse head to toe all you want.
Chin up, Brother! (and sister)
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Okay, so the video's terribly cheesy, but the message is exactly right. If you are of Institute age (18-30), and haven't met your Bro/Sis Right, give it a go. You've got very little to lose, and so incredibly much to gain.
Did I mention Jenni and I met through Institute? And it wasn't just from attending - it was from attending AND going to the activities.
Saturday, August 14, 2010
"I'd love to hear advice about being in love with your best friend and them not for you, but still want the friendship. Any advice would be great :)" - anonymous
Well, Anonymous, we hope this helps!
Monday, July 26, 2010
"As a part of this courtship experience, be careful not to base your judgments merely on what could be described as superficial “ticket punching.” By that, I mean do not base your decisions solely on whether someone has served a full-time mission or holds a particular calling in your ward. These things can be, should be, and usually are indications of devotion, faithfulness, and integrity. But not always. That is the reason you need to get acquainted. Know someone well enough to learn his or her heart and character firsthand and not just his or her “gospel résumé.”
A corollary is this: avoid being judgmental about someone until you get to know him or her. Snap negative judgments can be just as erroneous and misleading as snap positive ones. Be just as alert for a diamond in the rough as you are wary of fool’s gold."
"Vitaly: Of course, it’s great to be married to someone you’re attracted to. But when our focus is solely on physical characteristics, we inevitably miss the most important characteristics—personality, spirituality, and other qualities that really matter in an enduring marriage."
"Don’t give in. Certainly don’t give in to that being who is bent on the destruction of your happiness. He wants everyone to be miserable like unto himself. Face your doubts. Master your fears. ‘Cast not away therefore your confidence.’ Stay the course and see the beauty of life unfold for you.”
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Before you're engaged (you can start doing these thing before you even start dating!)
Go to church, regularly.
Get the spiritual basics in everyday (scripture study & prayer)
Learn homemaking skills, cooking cleaning, fixing. This goes for the guys too.
Learn how to manage money & learn to live frugally, even if you don't have to.
Learn to listen and follow the spirit. This is essential for finding your future spouse as well as life after marriage.
Learn to communicate. Duh!
Learn to serve others. If you haven't learned this by the time you get married, it will be harder to learn after. If you haven't learned it by the time you have kids, they'll teach you by force!
Things to do after you're engaged
Continue to do all of the above, personalized toward your spouse
Talk, talk, talk! Talk about everything with your future spouse.
Plan more than the wedding. Plan mostly for the marriage!
What are you doing or did you do to prepare for your marriage?